Concerns over one’s appearance, specifically expectations of being rejected based on appearance, can seriously affect a person’s mental and physical health.
Dr. Lora Park, Director of the Self and Motivation Research Laboratory at the University of Buffalo, conducted a study based on what she calls, “appearance-based rejection sensitivity, or ARS.” Her study found that those who had a high ARS score saw themselves as unattractive and thus more likely to base their self-worth on their outward appearance. They also were likely to have low self-esteem and were preoccupied with their body and weight in unhealthy ways. As a result, they adopted unhealthy practices such as not eating when hungry, exercising compulsively, or eating disorders such as binging and purging.
They also became immediately depressed when asked to think about what they disliked about their appearance.
On the flip side, those with low ARS scores were not negatively affected when asked to think about their perceived flaws.
Further study of people with high ARS scores showed that the negative behavior could be reduced by having them think about and focus on their strengths or existing close relationships. Park concluded that positive thoughts and close ties with others can minimize the harmful effects of appearance-based rejection fear.
When personal appearance has taken over a person’s life in a manner that has potential harm, action must be taken now. At one time or another, all of us have let beauty, money, success or many other issues screw with our sense of value and purpose. It is our duty to help each other when facing such a devastating thought pattern. I promise you this! Most of the time the ones that love you are the only ones that are going to tell you the truth. Trust those who have nothing to gain in lying to you and don’t trust those who may benefit from your success or lack of success in any given area.
God Bless,
Dr. Benzinger
